ACR’s Man Cave: How to Master the Perfect Handshake

We’ve all had the chat, usually from the old man or a granddad, about the importance of a good handshake. Old wisdom tells us that a handshake says a lot about the person you are. It probably doesn’t hold true, but if you have an important event coming up, like meeting a girlfriend’s parents for the first time or asking the boss for a raise, you’ll probably want to get that handshake just right.


Go By Personal Experience

This first thing we need to make clear at the start of this tutorial is that the perfect handshake is a subjective thing, so it’s best to bring your own flavour to what we’re about to tell you.

You can probably make a little list up in your mind of some of the worst handshakes you’ve ever experienced. Maybe the uncle who used to crush your hand every time he said hello, or the new guy at work who forgot to wipe the sweat off his hand before he gripped on or maybe it was that lank handshake your sister’s boyfriend gave you that showed how nervous he was.

Keep all of these in mind as we run through these tips.

Don’t Forget to Speak

The way you say ‘hello’ is as important as the handshake itself. Lock eyes with the person you’re speaking too, but not too intensely, and offer a ‘hello’ accompanied by a smile just before you take their hand.

Get on the Front Foot

Nothing gives off an impression of nerves like standing there waiting for the person to make the first move. Instead, have your hand out and ready as soon as they are within distance. This will give the impression that you are confident and open to having a conversation.

Be Flexible

There’s no one-size-fits-all answer to the amount of pressure you should apply. Instead, you need to read what the person is giving you. If they just want a light, quick shake give them what they want. If they want a long, drawn out and firm squeeze then follow suit.

Keep Eye Contact

You’ll be able to tell a lot about how everything is going if you keep eye contact. Maintaining eye contact will tell you when to pull away and it will give you a bit of an insight into how to person has reacted to your greeting. It’s all about a subtle stare, you don’t want to stare at the person like a possum in a torch light – it’s all about conveying the fact that you are attentive and interested in what the person has to say.


A good posture will finish off the perfect handshake. You should have your shoulders back and your chest out as you make the approach. It’s also important that you keep your arms open after the handshake. By crossing your arms across your stomach as soon as the handshake has finished you show that you are closed off and disinterested.

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